The Unfairness of Sexism

All women know by now that the media and the public are harsher on us with questions and remarks like, “What is she wearing?” “She is fat!” “Who does she think she is?! and so on. This have been going on for generations. It’s like nothing we do is good enough.

People are always complaining. Men think that this is a man’s world, and we women are just living in it.

Don’t get me wrong, not all men are that way, but many are. The media sure is. Remember when Hillary Clinton was running for president, there was alot of sexism (and racism too). Certain things people talk about, they wouldn’t have use that language if it was a man.

Women are the backbone of this country. Taking care of the kids, cooking the dinner, keeping the house clean, and holding the family together. Now, more and more women are going into the workforce and furthering their education.

Yes guys, women can do a man’s job, too! Probably even better than you! Women shouldn’t let others dictate their lives. The media is doing a good job of that. Always bringing out the latest makeup, wardrobes, trends. Tempting us to buy this and then that. Telling us skinny is in and average is out.

Women should realize that there is nothing pretty about skin and bones. Those stick skin models do Not look pretty or healthy. They look anorexic and sick. So ladies don’t starve or puke your guts out trying to look like a size 0.

It is not worth it. Unhealthy, malnourished, health problems is not attractive at all. If a man don’t like you for who you are then he’s not worth your love anyway. You can find better out there. You need a man who will love you for you, not what he think you should look like.

If he cheat on you, please don’t stay with him. Especially if he shows no remorse. Lose the zero and find you a hero.

If he have to cheats on you, sneaks around behind your back, tries to play you for a fool, then he’s sorry and not worth your time. Ladies there are real good men out there, though it’s rare, you just got to take your time and choose wisely. It’s worth taking your time to get in the right relationship than rushing through and having it fall apart.

Also don’t always pay attention to the media, they are making money and trying to get more business from people like you.

When the people are talking in their sexist ways about how women should just let it be and everything will be okay. She should know her place and so on.

Yeah, we know our places alright. They’re not only in the bedroom and kitchen, but it’s anywhere that we want to be in life.

 

*Published in Arkansas’s Sync Weekly 03-14-12/Vol. 5 Issue 47

(Published before on June 27, 2009 on this site with revisions)

How Do You Know If You Are A Hater? (Top 10 List)

Haters are everywhere. They hate on the most smallest and stupidest things. Haters seem to dwell in places where people have a lot of wealth, fame, and contributions to their name. The most infamous haters like Rush Limbaugh, Sean Hanity, Perez Hilton, Kanye West, Ann Coulter, etc. Also the rest of the haters that everybody already know about. Including but not limited to former Bush officials, extreme right/left wingers, racists. This blog was inspired by this article from Politico.com. It tells how some former Bush officials are fuming over the White House’s continued use of the historical “unprecedented.” As if they have a copyright to the term. Also you can click on the link if you want to read our “A Message To The Haters” piece, where we talk more about haters.

Top 10 List on how to Know If You Are A Hater

 

10.)     Hate on anybody that has a better life than you.

9.)     Criticize folks for their actions, if given the opportunity-you would do the same.

8.)     All you do is talk bad about people all day long.

7.)     Never give credit, even when the person have performed a good deed.

6.)      Take everything out of context.

5.)       Uses other haters talking points.

4.)       Bitterness! Think people actually care what you think.

3.)      Whine! Make up any kind of excuse just to prove your so called point.

2.)      Bring up old stuff to counter new things on a daily basis.

1.)        Always starting a controversy. Whether it’s an argument, fight, 

            convincing uninformed people to join your cause.

Pres. Obama’s Shout-Out to the Critics (Reality Check Poetry)

 

 Nobody thought that a man name Barack Hussein Obama could win the general election.                                                                                           

With his extraordinary speeches, inspired people to get out and vote.     

Reflecting on the past eight years, people wanted to make the right selection.

Scare tatics wasn’t going to provoke them to settle for the status quo boat.

 

Now, it’s only been over nine months, and critics already starting to fuss,

Arguing that he hasn’t save the whole world yet,

Lying, manipulating uninformed folks among us,

Griping why everything isn’t rescued overnight-

He never made a promise like that!

 

Protesting silly tea parties across the nation,

Complaining about Obama Care,

Don’t want to wake up and see the real reality they’re facing,

When all the president wants is for the insurance companies to be fair!

 

No matter what this man does, haters criticize it all.

They keep underestimating him,

Unaware of their inevitable fall.

The Party of No action is growing dim.

 

If they wasn’t protesting eight years ago, why are they doing it now!?

When Bush drugged the country to the gutter, No complaints, No howls.

Is it because the new guy is different-so they’re calling foul?

Where were they? No credibility then, so no credibility now!

 

These same folks cheered when the USA lost the chance to host the Olympics.

And they want to bitch about a Nobel Peace Prize, that’s got nothing to do with them.

  An ironic twist that was all over the media, which resulted in a sore loser epic.

Mad because it wasn’t given to them, that’s why they care.

 

If there ever was a  movie titled, “In the Life of a hater,”

Maybe they should take the starring role,

Better realize, their opinions will be irrelevant sooner or later.

 Obama might can give them his reelection win- 

which would be the best revenge served cold!

Should People Who Watch Others Get Beat Up Or Killed, Be Punished?

Should they? We believe they should. Especially, if they could have stop the attack or saved the victim’s life.

Lately, a lot of cases involving these circumstances have been rising alarmingly in the media.

Cases like the recent fatal beating of a teenager from Chicago.

A woman attacked because of her ethnicity.

A woman raped by another man, while her husband looked on.

Another woman attacked by her abusive husband.

A man ran over by two cars while other bystanders stood there and didn’t even help him out.

When will this stop! People that do this sort of thing, should be ashamed of themselves!

How can they even sleep at night!? “Do they assure themselves that since everybody else did it too,” so they can sleep at night!

What is this world coming to? What if it were their parents, siblings, spouse, relatives, friends, coworkers, that had been attacked or killed, while everybody else stood there and didn’t do a damn thing!

What if it happened to them? What if it was them being attacked or killed, they would want someone to help them out, right? They wouldn’t want people standing there, not doing anything, right?

So why are they not doing something to help these people? They aren’t doing anything!

They didn’t help the victim, call for help, wrestle the attacker away. Do something! Don’t just stand there like a fool! If it’s something that they can do.

Now if the attacker had a gun or bomb on them, then that would be understanding. We can see why they would have reacted that way!

So, do you think people who watch others get attacked or even killed, if they had an opportunity to stop the attack or saved the person’s life but didn’t, should be punished?

(Maybe more people need to listen to this song more often)
(The Red Hot Juicy Sizzling Gosssip Crew contributed to this writing piece)

Determined & Fed Up Black Women: Breaking The Stereotypes

The title is what we mean!

Determined and fed up black women breaking all the stereotypes against us and others.

What’s with the so called saying, “Angry Black Woman?”

These angry, black women that’s supposed to be bitter, loud, ignorant, trifling, on welfare, unmarried with a bunch of kids and don’t know who father either one of them, uneducated sista? Where did all of this come from!? Who passed this on from generation to generation? Feeding this ignorance and racism to the world! This is not even remotely true!

It is completely false to dump all African American women into one category and label them all angry black women!

There is some black women out there that this may apply to.

But that can also go to every other woman out there.

Whether she is Caucasian, Hispanic, Asian, Native American, etc.

Some men can also be all of these things too.

Whether they are Caucasian, African American, Hispanic, Asian, Native American, etc.

This can apply to anybody.

We can contribute this ignorance to the slave mentality that many people choose to believe and instilled it in their children.

Then throughout the years, throughtout the generations, people, the media, spread this foolishness around.

The mistake was when African Americans, especially women, let this poisoned thinking, influence them.

How did black women let this mentality stick with them?

By believing that lighter or fairer skin color is more attractive, narrow features more interesting, longer and staighter hair is what everyone wants.

Reinforcing these stereotypes by believing and becoming them.

Then the media spread this propaganda as if it is true and everyone already believes it.

This information is wrong.

Sure, maybe in some instances, negative lifestyles may influence more in some races compared to others.

But not all people of one race is this way.

A lot of this ignorant thinking contribute to much of the racism out there now.

People that thinks like this, is seriously misinformed and naive about different cultures in general.

There are many African American women that are the nicest and sweetest people that you will ever meet.

Yes, I know that this too can apply to all people, men and women of all races.

But this article is focusing more on black women because they are hit hardest with this stereotype.

First Lady Michelle Obama experienced a lot of these stereotypes too.

Different critics in the media tried to stick her with stereotypes but it didn’t work.

She was call an angry black woman, militant, she also had high negative approval ratings among the general public.

But as people gotten to know her, it was like she became one of them.

Her negatives went down.

Working moms could relate to her.

She became an inspiration for many women.

Being confident and cocky are too different things.

People sometimes confuse the two.

It isn’t all about cockiness and hardness.

A lot of these women are just confident and assertive.

Hard working and happy.

Educated and successful.

Intimidation, jealousy, envy can transfer into this attitude about angry black women.

Some folks feel threatened of this cycle.

They see all women as stay-at-home moms tending to supper for the family every evening.

And this notion that any woman, especially black women, can become successful breadwinners is very laughable and ridiculous.

And these same folks, mostly white men, are very wrong!

There are a lot of other stereotypes out there, not just toward black women.

The stereotypes towards black men that say most of them are angry, violent, don’t work, high school dropouts, leave their familes, are in jail, criminals, in gangs, dates only white women, etc.

Dumb blondes towards white women that is naive, stuck up, and thinks she can get by only on her looks.

And what about the stereotype towards white men that say most of them are racist, ignorant, feels intimidated by strong women, and think they are more superior and own the whole world with everybody in it.

But just like I told you earlier, the same thing goes for these stereotypes, it did for black women.

This can apply to anybody, even though some races of people experienced these challenges more than others because of disportionate obstacles in their environment, but still that is no excuse to label a whole group of people with this ignorance.

If you would like to read more on our racism and ignorance subjects, you can click here to check them out.

(A special guest writer contributed to this article on RHJSG)

“How to Write a Good Story”

(Below, is commentary from our main blogger, Denise Wilson. She is an inspiring writer, in the process of publishing novels in the future. Here she will give you tips on how to write that perfect story.)

How do you write a good story?

Always take your time and get it right, like any other skill.

Every author is different at what they do.

First, you should gather your thoughts and brainstorm about them.

Next, create an interesting title that stands out.

Make it controversial and different, so it would be able to catch the reader’s eye and persuade them to pick it up and read your novel.

Develop your characters. Tell how they look, act, talk. Make them alive.
Being them to life. As if people can actually see them, hear them, feel them.

The characters should be like real people.

Develop your story. Create a plot.

Make it as if this can actually happen in real life.

Who’s who, what, when, where, why, how, in the story. Who is the main character?

What is the problem or problems that the protagonist (Main character) is having?

Who is the antagonist? Why is this person or thing against the protagonist?

What happened in the story for it to get to this point?

Can the events that takes place in the novel be solved?

The circumstances that build up or arise in the novel is called the climax.

Finally, at the end, you sould give the reader a feeling of satisfaction that this story was worth reading.

That everything is solved.

The characters are living better lives.

Maybe even better than before the situations took place.

By completing these steps, then you will have a good novel that people may want to read.

Not all stories follow this rule but most that are successful do.

You should persuade your audience to want to read another one of your novels again.

Top Five Forgettable but Important African American Women that help Pave the way for Future Generations

In life, you don’t get many opportunities to do the things that you want to do.

If you do get that chance to achieve your goals.

You should accomplish your fullest potential and never look back.

Being successful and making the world a better place is a wonderful thing.

Like the women below, anybody can contribute to the best of society and while they do it, they will leave their marks for all to appreciate.

This is our top five List of famous but also forgettable African American women that made important contributions in breaking the color barrier and paving the way for future generations today.

Ranging from different fields like Entertainment to Entrepreneurship. 

They are all gone now, but their memories will last a lifetime. And even though they were quite known in their time but they are almost forgotten today. Society may have forgotten them, but history sure hasn’t- because they have made their marks in the history books.

(Note: This top five list covers from the most memorable to least memorable.)

 

5. Dorothy Dandridge (November 9, 1922–September 8, 1965) was an actress and singer. She was the first black woman to be nominated in the best actress category for an Oscar, losing it to actress Grace Kelly at the time. A very attractive and great entertainer. She starred in many films and recorded several songs. One of her best known films which she was nominated for an Academy Award is “Carmen Jones.” Critics gave the film very good reviews. She was sort of like the lesser known Marilyn Monroe of her era. She was also quoted as saying, “If I were white, I could capture the world.” At the time, there wasn’t many starring roles for African American actors or actresses. It took Hollywood awhile to give her the recognition that she deserved. Many years later, Halle Berry portrayed Dorothy Dandridge in a film that premiered on HBO called “Introducing Dorothy Dandridge” bringing the famous actress/singer’s life onscreen. Halle Berry eventually became the first black actress to win the Academy Award, in her acceptance speech, she thank Dorothy and many other notable famous black women. Even though she left this earth at 42 years of age, Dorothy Dandridge would be remembered as an actress who went for all she wanted in her films but achieved only half of it. Because maybe in that earlier time period, Hollywood wasn’t quite ready for her.

 

 4. Madam C.J. Walker (December 23, 1867 – May 25, 1919) Her real name was Sarah Breedlove.  She was an entrepreneur, philanthropist, mogul, and much more. She was the first self made woman millionaire. Also during her time, she had the biggest black-own business. Madam C.J. Walker was like the Oprah Winfrey of her era. Owning many successful hair products, especially for women of color, being inspired from losing her hair to an infection-immediately inventing something to help herself and others.  She gave to many charities. After her death at 51,  her daughter carried her torch on. She will be remembered for her skills and successful innovations that helped change a generation. One of her best known quotes that we love about her is this one, ”There is no royal, flower-strewn path to success. And if there is, I have not found it for if I have accomplished anything in life, it is because I have been willing to work hard.^”

 

 3. Lorraine Hansberry (May 19, 1930-January 12, 1965) was a playwright and she wrote many different pieces spanning  diverse genres. “A Rasin in the Sun” is perhaps one of her most famous plays, base on her own life. Being very successful, films were made based on the play. She became the first black woman to have a play on Broadway, the youngest American playwright, and the fifth woman to be awarded for her writing piece. Dying young from cancer at the tender age of thirty-four, her brilliant works will have a lasting impact. Most likely, if she had the chance, she would have went far and wrote even more terrific pieces like her other best-selling ones. 

 

 2. Shirley Chisholm (November 30, 1924 – January 1, 2005) She was a politician. A seventh term congresswoman that represented New York’s 12th Congressional District (1969-1983). She was the first black woman elected to Congress. Also she became the first African American candidate to run for president. And the second woman to run for the nomination of a major political party. Determined and feisty, paving the way for future politicians of color and women. She definitely will be remembered for one of the first to break the color barrier.

1. Elizabeth “Bessie” Coleman (January 26, 1892 – April 30, 1926) She was the first African American woman to become a licensed pilot and the first American regardless of race or gender to have an international pilot license. She was a very determined and confident individual. Fascinated with airplanes since she was a child, achieving her dream as an adult. She was forbidden from learning how to manuever aircraft and getting her license in America because of her race, so she had to travel to France to obtain her license. Perished at the young age of thirty-four in a plane crash, and right at the peak of her career. Being a very smart, courageous, and attractive woman, she is a strong inspiration for women of color and women everywhere.

Don’t Be Fooled: Protect Your Computer Against Antivirus Scams

This headline is self explanatory. Don’t let these scam artists take advantage of you and your computer.

Everyone should know by now that a lot of them are claiming to be legitimate but they are one hundred percent false!

All they want to do is scare you into buying their misleading product.

Most notable, Personal Antivirus, Antivirus 2009, Computer Defender 2009, etc. There are many.

They pretend to be legit companies. Posing as your windows security center, advertising online, hijacking your browser, displaying false infections/viruses, that you do not even have.

Tempting you to download their product, so they can scare and manipulate you into purchasing the phony antivirus program.

Recently, my computer was hacked into. I got it back in good working order now. And I hope it stay that way.

Rarely, can I be tempted into downloading anything, especially if I am suspicious of it.

Even though I try to be careful, but some of these people are very clever. It’s like everyday, they try to come up with devious and malicious, new techniques to deceive unknowing users.

I owe my thanks to legit online communities like, Bleeping Computer.com and E-geniuses.com, and many others.

If you haven’t already be sure to check them out. They are online communities that provide very useful and helpful advice to PC users.

Beyond Belief: Fact or Fiction-Should it be brought back

Should they bring back Beyond Belief: Fact or Fiction?

Bring back new episodes not just reruns, because reruns are already running on some networks.

Beyond Belief: Fact or Fiction was a tv show that premiered on Fox and Sci fi from May 1, 1997–September 5, 2002.

It was hosted first by James Brolin and then later by Jonathan Frakes.

The show also had two narrators. Don LaFontaine and awhile later by Campbell Lane.

Each show contain five stories consisting of different elements. That were portrayed by actors.

Also some of the actual names of people and places were change from time to time.

The stories included some kind of extraordinary or ironic event that took place.

Beyond Belief: Fact or Fiction, mostly centered around genres like the supernatural, destiny, drama, fate, ghosts, coincidences, and other susprising events.

At times it could be difficult to tell which episode was fact or fiction. Certain stories that seem false were true or vice versa.

There was always a point or moral to each story in the series.

Some of the stories were true and some were false. Viewers had to determine which story actually happened at the end of the episode.

Author Robert Tralins contributed to the research of most of the stories that were presented on the show.

It was a great show and became a hit.

Do you think Beyond Belief: Fact or Fiction should come back?

If you had a top five of tv shows that were canceled, that you could bring back, would you include Beyond Belief: Fact or Fiction among them?

Watch an episode of Beyond Belief: Fact or Fiction here

Do You Believe in Ghosts?

A lot of people do. There are really no such things as ghosts. We know, We know.

We sound like one of those skeptical people that don’t believe anything until it happens right in front of our eyes.

Well, we believe in evil spirits. Demonic figures or demons appear as the spirits of deceased people.

They fool the living into thinking that their love ones or strange ghosts has come back from the dead to haunt or watch over them.

Most times, these unearthly creatures are harmless. But there have been numerous cases where they have cause bodily harm to humans.

It is rare though. Usually these evil spirits just appear out of nowhere and scare the hell out of you.

They tend to prey on those that are the most vulunable.

Such as young children, older people, the disabled, people that take illegal substances, the weak, the fearful, and those people that practiced certain tactics as witchcraft, sorcery, voodo, black magic.

Also those that practiced false religion, fortune tellers, mediums, ghost hunters, and people that experiment and search for it.

The Devil and demons do their worst damage to people that fall in the categories above.

They possess and take control of the person. Turn them into a competely different person.

Inhuman strength and very borderline attitudes and personalities. Violent outbursts and maddening behavior may follow.

In the extremely demonic cases such as these, usually a priest is call in for an exorcism in Catholic teachings.

Here’s a few tips in these unusual circumstances:

Be strong. Do not show your fear. Even if you are afraid, do not let the spirits sense it. These evil spirits feed or gain their energy on negative behavior, anger, and fear.

Have strong faith. Call on and pray to God. They fear a stronger being.

Do not run away from them. Running is just an invitation to be chase. It may be tempting to but restrain against it.

Usually you can’t run away from evil spirits, especially demonic figures. They just keep on following you regardless where you run to.

It’s best to get rid of the presence once and for all. Meaning their ability to haunt your house or property.

Know the histories of your home and property. There are times that the house may not be the source of the haunting but the land or property.

The land could have been use as a burial or cemetary many years ago.

Evil spirits tend to dwell in places where alot of violence, death, and strongly emotional events occured.

Whether or not this information helps. Majority of the time, this is enough to combat evil spirits and demonic presences.

Always remember to face your fears and never ever run away from them because they will come back and haunt you.

(Denise Wilson and Cheyenne Summerville contributed to this blog)